It takes a village…
You all heard the saying “It takes a village to raise a kid”. It’s true! If it wasn’t for my mother, grandmother, friends, and those brilliant mothers around me, I wouldn’t be the mom I am today.
We are there for each there, give each other advice, give honest criticism and most importantly, they listen when I just need to vent. #FRIENDSHIPGOALS who happens to be awesome mothers!
I created this blog so parents can find information and support regarding children, health, balancing work and family life.
It’s always good to have a group of people to lean on within our journey of motherhood that we can trust and rely on. I know I definitely gained so much knowledge from these amazing mothers.
When I was a first time mom, I was always second guessing myself if this was the right way to do it. If my child had a fever, should I take him/her to the hospital right away? When should I return to work? Is it too early to pierce my daughters ears at 2 months?
When parents go online, we just want information to know if people are experiencing the same things. We feel at ease when other women/mothers have had a similar experience as us.
Similarly, the social support from other mothers relieved the feeling of isolation that can be experienced during maternity leave or being a stay at home mom.
Now, you want to balance being a parent and a career you say?
I honestly feel that we can never conquer both equally but we can come close to it… very close. We have to make a hard decision as a parent and look at our current situation. Our financial circumstance and family dynamics are not always going to stay the same.
Also, if any parent chooses to focus on being a better provider for their family, don’t feel guilty! YOU know your situation and no one else. It’s easy to judge but never easy being in other people’s shoes.
With that being said, here are my 4 tips on finding a balance between motherhood and a career.
Tip #1: Remember to take a break.
Take a break whenever you feel overwhelmed or stressed. Schedule a break after an activity that you’ve been working on for more than two hours. Make yourself a cup of coffee or tea during nap time for your child. Just remember we are all human. We also get tired, so make sure you are rested mentally and physically so you can take care of your family.
Tip #2: Life Is Perfect…Not!
There are going to be days that you don’t want to clean or do the laundry. Don’t! instead, spend some time with your loved one, go to the park or get some ice cream. Everything doesn’t have to be done on a specific day or time.
Tip #3: Disconnect to reconnect with yourself and your family
Take this time to pick out a hobby that you enjoy that you didn’t have time to do. Tackle it bit by bit. schedule date night once a week with your significant other and also with your kids on separate days. You need to spend some time with your family but don’t forget to take some time off for yourself. Life is hectic as it is, don’t lose yourself in the midst of it all. HAVE FUN!
Tip #4: Exercise at home
I know you want to hit the gym 3 to 4 times a week to get your pre-pregnancy body back or just to lose a few pounds. Just enjoy the process of working out again instead of making it a chore.
Once it feels like work, you won’t enjoy it and you might want to quit all together. It can get overwhelming, so take your time. Reward yourself as well like buying a pair of new pants or a shirt.
Tip #5: To do overtime, or not to do overtime: that is the question
Sometimes, there are days that we have to stay at work longer. That’s OKAY. As long as we make time for ourselves and family, it won’t hurt. But, there has to be a balance. If your working overtime, make sure you get off work on time the next day or finish work a littler earlier.
To all the parents out there trying to balance your hectic lives with juggling your careers: You got this.